can you really kill someone with kindness?

There is this person I know, which I found out recently has been speaking ill of me behind my back doing so well at making me believe that they are my friend, and yet, it's obvious that they are not.

HOW CAN PEOPLE BE LIKE THIS?

It definitely serves their purpose to be back stabbing because if something happens to me they will benefit, so it is in their best interest to do what they can to bring me down. And yet, I am not sure why they chose this avenue, rather than to help make me successful because in the end, it makes them successful too!?!?!?! But whatever, they suck!

I would love to confront this person. Okay, that is a lie. I don't like confrontation, but I would do it in this situation, but because the people who told me, said so under the strictest of confidence I cannot reveal their identity. It is a moot point to bring it up. I have no evidence. No one to back me up. I just know this is happening.

What else do I do?

I am really crappy at being mean. I am not one of those that thinks on my feet well. I get caught up in the feeling sentimental and sympathy for people. Because if they are mean obviously they are unhappy and maybe just need a friend.

WTF!!! IS WRONG WITH ME???

This person is making things harder for me. Being horrible. This person is making me look bad. And here I sit wanting to be nice.

So what do I do?

My philosophy has always been to kill people with kindness.

If you are mean to me, I perk up my chipperness to the point where it annoys you. Can you think of someone who is so nice it makes you sick and you are like, this person is annoying, but eventually you find yourself smiling. See? That is how I get even.

Or I ignore you like the plague. Which really wouldn't help my situation here.

Thoughts? Ideas?

I can't very well higher a hit man, now can I?