Still too early to think about kids

Saint and I went to a mexican food restaurant the other night.

As we walked in and sat down, we realized we were the only ones there. Literally. The only guests. At first it was odd, but after a bit, it became pleasant and peaceful.

Neither of us felt the need to fill the silence, though we did exchange a bit of conversation. We were just digging into our dinners when out of no where comes screeching and chaos. Screaming. Rowdiness. Laughter. And lots of NO's!

We turn around and in walks a family with four kids all under the age of 8. I laughed, turned and looked at Saint and knew he was not happy. He is not a fan of loud, crazy kids. He was especially not in the mood that night. I am pretty sure that is why he vetoed my first suggestion of Arribas and went for the local family mexican food place instead.

At first, it didn't bother me. After about ten minutes of the kids running around chairs, still screaming; I was starting to get annoyed. It had been so peaceful.

The parents finally got settled, took each of the kids to the bathroom and then ordered their food.

Time passed without either of us realizing that it was back to being quiet. Not peaceful. But it was quiet. I glanced over and every single one of those kids - under the age of 8 - were sitting on their knees on the chairs and talking in inside voices, coloring away.

My jaw dropped.

Now there is a prime example of good parenting. You cannot take the kid out of a kid, but you can teach them to be calm. Like dogs out the door, they are crazy with excitement, but once the newness is over, all is well.

Well done.

Random Dozen

I am trying new things this week regarding my blog, this being one of them. Let me know what you think.
12 Random Questions from 2nd cup of Coffee & this week, they are actually courtesy of Mocha with Linda. Linda, I really like the questions!!

1. Do you prefer to read the book or see the movie?
I like to do both, but ALWAYS read the book first bc I have found out that I usually prefer the book to the movie.

2. What is your favorite holiday and why?
Thanksgiving is my favorite due to the fact that we get to sit around doing whatever it is we do as a complete family (including some stragglers), eat lots of wonderful food and enjoy all the beautiful pumpkin festivals. It's more peaceful and definitely less chaotic that the other holidays.

3. Which do you like better - the mountains or the beach?
The mountains, I suppose.

4. If money were no consideration, what vehicle would you drive?
Oh BMW 5 series or 3 series

5. What is your favorite cold-weather beverage?
Starbucks - Decaf mocha with whip cream

6. How do you communicate most often with your friends: phone, email, text, face-to-face, or Facebook?
Mostly by text and email and anytime from once a week up to once a month.

7. How do you receive your mail? Mailbox on the porch, at the end of the driveway, down the street, or post office box?
Mail is in a cluster of mail boxes together

8. Of the four basic personality types - sanguine, phlegmatic, melancholic, and choleric - which is your strongest? Which is your least evident? (See definitions below.)
Though I have characteristics of all of them, I would say I lean more towards Sanguine minus the lose interest in a new hobby.

9. What do you miss the most about being 20?
Being able to go out all night and go to work not feeling the pain. (not that I did it much, but boy do I notice it now)

10. How long from the time you get up, does it take you to get ready to walk out the door in the morning?
I like to linger so I wake up one hour and fifteen minutes before leaving, but I can get ready in 20 minutes if necessary.

11. Who handles the car maintenance and pays the bills in your family?
Well, since it's just little ol' me (for now) - me.

12. For those in the US, how many states have you visited? For those outside the US, how many provinces/other countries have you visited?
I have visited 12 - CA, AZ, NM, CO, TX, WA, MN, NY, MA, CT, RI and FL.

Personality type definitions courtesy Wikipedia:


The Sanguine temperament personality is fairly extroverted. People of a sanguine temperament tend to enjoy social gatherings, making new friends and tend to be quite loud. They are usually quite creative and often daydream. However, some alone time is crucial for those of this temperament. Sanguine can also mean very sensitive, compassionate and thoughtful. Sanguine personalities generally struggle with following tasks all the way through, are chronically late, and tend to be forgetful and sometimes a little sarcastic. Often, when pursuing a new hobby, interest is lost quickly when it ceases to be engaging or fun. They are very much people persons. They are talkative and not shy. For some people, these are the ones you want to be friends with and usually they become life long friends.


A person who is choleric is a doer. They have a lot of ambition, energy, and passion, and try to instill it in others. They can dominate people of other temperaments, especially phlegmatic types. Many great charismatic military and political figures were cholerics. They like to be leaders and in charge of everything.


A person who is a thoughtful ponderer has a melancholic disposition. Often very considerate and get rather worried when they could not be on time for events, melancholics can be highly creative in activities such as poetry and art - and can become occupied with the tragedy and cruelty in the world. A melancholic is also often a perfectionist. They are often self-reliant and independent; one negative part of being a melancholic is sometimes they can get so involved in what they are doing they forget to think of others.


Phlegmatics tend to be self-content and kind. They can be very accepting and affectionate. They may be very receptive and shy and often prefer stability to uncertainty and change. They are very consistent, relaxed, rational, curious, and observant, making them good administrators and diplomats.

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Here are the questions Whining at the World tagged me and would like me to answer:

How do you / will you know when you are all grown up?

I don't know that I will ever truly feel grown up, but I do feel the changes of internally being more responsible and more aware of the needs of those around me which I think is an attribute of an adult - moving out of the "it's all about me" stage.

As a child what did you want to be when your grew up and are you doing it?
I always wanted to be an astronaut until my senior year in high school, when I realized it would take years upon years of studying airplanes before we even considered talking about NASA and the space shuttle.
You could have an entire day 24 hours to do whatever you wanted (no expense spared). So what would you do?

If I fly somewhere, does it include the flight time? Because I totally want to go to Fiji, but it takes something like 14 hours to get there or some ungodly amount of time. But usually, in a normal life, I would grab coffee, read my book, blog and re-watch romantic comedies, then go out to dinner with Saint.

Someone invents a new cocktail and they want to name it after you. What are the main ingredients?
The drive for success mixed with the need for approval. (smirk)

How many blogs are you currently following or subscribed to?
Quite a few - some in google reader and some I link to in my blog.

Why did you start blogging and is the reason you started still relevant?
I promised myself I would write every day and this seemed like the easiest way to accomplish that. I have been blogging since 2005, under a different name before this blog. I got divorced and it just didn't seem good to continue that blog with all that history there. Hence, the new born blog, Heaven is a bookstore. And yes, still the same though I have garnered that I can also enjoy the friendships of blogging as well.
What is your favourite item of clothing?
My jeans after they have been washed and worn for a few days. They have this incredibly comfortably, soft feel to them like another skin.

If you had to give up blogging or chocolate what would you chose? Is it a hard choice?
Nope, definitely bye bye chocolate. I need my blogging. I love writing and I love reading other's blogs. I could definitely find some other method to appease my sweet tooth.
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Just when the caterpillar thought the world was ending, it turned into a butterfly.

-- anonymous


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